Updated: Sep 20
"When a wise person has a controversy with a foolish person, the foolish one either rages or laughs, and there is no rest." Proverbs 29:9
The "fool" I imagine is similar to an immature person, someone who refuses to self-reflect and therefore never learned the valuable lessons life has been trying to teach them.
When a person is focused only on "self" they loose the ability to care about others. Self alone cannot live a life of joy when self hides from the truth.
An emotionally abusive person has immature reactions. They "rage" when they are confronted with something they have done or when they don't get what they want. The rage is equal to an adult temper tantrum, which can be terrifying and confusing for a victim. Often the rage is an irrational reaction to a small problem.
An emotionally abusive person will be dismissive of your emotional needs. When you attempt to explain your feelings or needs, they will "laugh" at you, causing you to feel as though you are the "fool."
Being in any type of relationship with this type of person is exhausting! There is "no rest" for your mind. Your thoughts are often plagued with confusion, self blame, feeling worthless and wanting to fix things. The patterns of a toxic relationship can be difficult to spot when you are in the middle. Your rational mind knows something is wrong, but your empathy and loving heart will often justify the behavior.
There are so many layers to emotional and psychological abuse. Please educate yourself, give yourself grace, and "do not judge yesterday's mistakes with today's wisdom" (Steven Furtick).
I am here with you, I understand your feelings, and I want you to know that how you have been treated is not ok. Don't give up on yourself, you ARE loved, you were created for a purpose, your life has meaning, you will survive!